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Dementia care for seniors can become difficult during the holidays – tensions run high and all the extra activity can become more than families can withstand without becoming overstressed.
Nobody ever said that caring for senior parents with dementia at home was easy. Elderly parents can be stubborn and resist any efforts on their behalf to make life better for them. These are typical characteristics of adults suffering from dementia and are among the most common reasons why adult children seek help from dementia care givers for their elderly parents.
It’s very important that you don’t lose your patience and let things escalate to the point of no return. It’s never a good thing to lose your temper and risk provoking your parent. They cannot help being the way they are during this traumatic time when their brain is deteriorating, often resulting in fear, confusion, anxiety, and stubbornness.
“Does your loved one have a preference about which family member or what type of service provides care? While you might not be able to meet all of your loved one’s wishes, it’s important to take them into consideration. If your loved one has trouble understanding you, simplify your explanations and the decisions you expect him or her to make.” – Mayo Clinic Staff, Caring for the Elderly: Dealing with Resistance, Mayo Clinic
You are not alone if you are at a loss as to how to help your aging parent. People in the early stages of memory loss often recognize the changes taking place in their brain, causing the inability to take care of themselves or conduct their lives in the way they are accustomed to. Adult children often have difficulty responding when their parent refuses dementia care or advice.
At Home Care Assistance, providers of dementia care services in Kansas City, gathered a few tips from caregivers, medical professionals, gerontologists, dementia experts, and other authorities to help you deal with stubborn elderly parents with dementia.
Ask Them What THEY Want
Explain to them the type of help that is needed. Ask non-threatening, open-ended questions about their wishes. The answers will give you information and an opening in which to discuss how dementia care can make their life easier.
Put Yourself In THEIR Shoes
Try to understand how your parent feels. Most people find it difficult to accept aging, especially when their mental capacities are diminishing. Losing their independence can be both frightening and build resentment.
Respect Their Opinion
You should approach discussions of dementia care in Kansas City with compassion and respect. Know your facts – if you can explain to your parent what they can expect it may help to ease their anxiety.
Be Patient and Understanding
When talking to a loved one in the early stages of dementia, they may not be able to focus on the conversation for a long period of time. Be patient, listen attentively, talk about other things, then bring the conversation back to the topic at hand.
Give Them Choices
Offer your parents several options. Don’t try to force them to accept anything. Strangers in their home can be traumatic for someone with dementia. This will make them feel a part of the decision-making process for dementia care, giving them some control.
Don’t Rush The Process
Take it slow. It is very important that your parent’s dignity is protected and respected throughout the process of obtaining dementia care. Introduce the caregiver so they can have coffee together or take a walk. Ask the caregiver to accompany you and your parent to a doctor’s appointment. Have the caregiver take your parent grocery shopping so that you can remain at work. In other words, gradually ease your parent into the unfamiliar world they find themselves in.
Taking these small steps will let your parent become accustomed to assistance from someone other than you. Your parent will be able to see that it doesn’t feel like an imposition. It is also an opportunity to see if the caregiver is a good match with your parent.
We‘ve provided dementia care in Kansas City to thousands of people living with mild to severe impairment. The difference between a good day and a bad day is often a familiar home environment and an experienced and skilled caregiver. Your loved one’s comfort and safety is our focus. Many times, people with dementias communicate through non-verbal means or have different and changing language skills. Our caregivers are experienced in connecting and communicating during the different stages of dementia.
At Home Care Assistance, we are committed to long-term caregiver relationships. Most of our clients choose to have the same caregiver for years. Our consistent staffing allows your loved one to build a bond with our caregiver and think of us like family.
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